Thursday, May 31, 2012

Moving toward the Margin



After trying three times to hold someone’s attention long enough to tell her story, the woman at our table catches my eye and forges ahead.
It’s a long story.
She’s told it many times. I can tell from the dramatic pauses, practiced punch lines, widened eyes at crucial junctures.

It is an interesting story. But so long. She has a million more.
She’s lived an interesting life and done important things.
Now, at the wedding reception, she is seated with couples who know nothing of her and her interesting life. Her children long grown, her husband long absent from the marriage, she has no one to chat with except strangers. The people she does know are busy with other guests–happy to see her but having no surfeit of time to sit and reminisce.

She sits on the edge of the room and watches. The stories of those around her are still being written. They are in the middle of the action, building suspense, thriving on conflict,
nowhere near the climax of the story.
She is living in the denouement.
Worse than that, she lives in the margin.
Still on the page, still on the periphery of the action, but not part of it.

Maybe she shouldn’t mind, and maybe one day she won’t. But for now she doesn’t want to inhabit the margin. She wants to contribute to the drama, be part of the stories around her, or possibly just recount her exciting anecdotes from pages–no, chapters–back. Brief forays back in: she punctuates an exciting moment with a proper exclamation or worms her way into a parenthetical phrase. But phrases need to end and action needs to resume and once again she is at the edges, framing the unfolding tale.

I wish I had told the woman at the wedding this:
without margins the story of life has no framework and no respite. It’s just a string of words and phrases and sentences.

I get the feeling I won’t want to stay on the sides either. You’ll find me, just as the climax of the story approaches, slowing down the action with a recap of excitements long past. Feel free to skim, and escort me gently back to the margin.

6 comments:

Sue Vick Finley said...

But this makes me cry for her and all of us as we accelerate to the margin. My dad said to me yesterday about Memorial Day..."I find that at age 88 I am perfectly happy to sit on the shore and watch every one else enjoy the water sports." :(

The Prude said...

Oh Sue, I love your dad's attitude. Praying I have that much grace and contentment if the Lord gives me 88 years.

Susan said...

Beautifully told.

Robin J. Steinweg said...

YES! There is purpose to be found in the margins. The white space allows others a smoother, easier, more enjoyable passage through the pages. No one would even want to visit there without the margins.

Beautiful piece, Prude!

mom said...

Oh, this makes me sad to read. We don't live in a world that has time for long stories anymore. Everything is quick. Bullet points. White space with few words.

Somehow I don't think I'll ever live in the margins as my children and grandchildren will smack dab me right in the middle of the action. I may not say much in that position, but I'll smile plenty as I catch a bit here and there swirling all around me :-)

Blessings,
Tammy ~@~

Joanie said...

So sad! Was this at our last wedding?